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  • (Question) What do I do to stop the fighting about the uni I’m going to? : college

     Arianna updated 1 year, 10 months ago 1 Member · 1 Post
  • Arianna

    January 10, 2021 at 9:38 pm

    (Sorry if this isn’t the right sub.) There’s two schools about an hour away from me. That I’ve been in love with for maybe 2-3 years. They have really good psychology programs. I’ll be getting an apartment, with a roommate (hopefully my Bestie✨) it’ll cost about $300-350 a month. One of the unis is the cheapest one in my state. At $240 a credit hour. I love this school, I love the area. I think I’ll be really happy there and it’s not far so I can visit home all the time, already plan on coming down during the weekends. However, my step dad (recently widowed, whom I live with) has been freaking out on me, repeatedly about how I should go to the closer school. Maybe 30-45 minuets away instead so I can continue to live at home.

    I don’t want to go there. It’s in a city, that personally I consider the ghetto. Nobody but me agrees with me on this. But I cannot stand it. It’s a fairly large city (to me) with about 400,000 people living there. That’s about 250,000 more people than I’m comfortable with. It’s a trash city to me. Very scary, too busy. I’ve hated this city my whole life and actively try to avoid it. I only go to the city if friends/family force me to.

    I had to go to an event at this uni for extra credit in my college class (pre-COVID) my stepdad said I should keep an open mind and walk around the campus afterwards. So I did. I thought about all the pros of going there, staying home, still living around my home town, etc. But I couldn’t. The traffic, the people, how scary it was to me. I was walking around and some dudes got too close to me and I was so scared I gripped my keys until I got back to my car. I hated the entire experience. When I got back home I told him of this and he got deeply offended. (He grew up in that town, but I’m a small town country mouse, big cities spook me)

    I have begun to suspect he may just be getting upset because for the first time in almost 6 years he’ll be all alone in his home. He’ll miss me being here. We bonded a lot after my mom died. But I think I have the right to spread my wings and grow in a city that I really love. What can do I to help him be more comfortable with me moving away?

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